Is Compassion a Relationship Killer?

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Well here I am, once again, airing my dirty “dating” laundry over the internet.  Tears are literally streaming down my face as I type this.  My breath is short and fast yet heavy and winded all at once.

I’ve just ended a relationship due to my veganism.

My heart hurts.  This was a guy who I’ve known since we were kids.  Someone who I developed real, true feelings for.  Someone I saw long-term potential in.  And someone who despite eating animals, had a good heart and made me feel like a princess.

My family liked him.  My friends liked him.  And most importantly, I liked him.

For the eight months that we dated, he was open to trying my vegan food and I shut my mouth about his carnivorous ways **most** of the time when he was eating meat in front of me.  Of course it bothered me that he wasn’t bothered by the cruelty and lack of compassion for his dietary choices.  But I’ve always held onto the belief that it’s not my place to push my beliefs onto others and instead, live by the credo “I don’t preach, I inspire.”  So I kept quiet for the most part and focused on all the good things in the relationship instead.

We both loved bodybuilding.  He even liked the vegan restaurants I took him to.  He respected the fact that I was vegan.  And I accepted the fact that he was not.

On May 28th, 2017, we both flew to Vancouver for a short getaway (and free trip because I was booked to speak at Veg Expo.)

Everything was going great (or so I thought.)  We even met his newly-vegan cousin for dinner at a funky raw place the night before the expo.

After dinner, I was pacing the hotel room, preparing for the expo, when he asked me: “if you could change one thing about me, what would it be?”  Without any hesitation, I blurted out “I wish you were vegan.”

Apparently the most right reason in my mind was the most wrong thing that I could say.

The next day was of course, heavenly for me (as any vegan expo is for a vegan.)

Here I was, standing in front of a 30-foot poster of MYSELF all day long, meeting hundreds of people, flexing on stage with other vegan bodybuilders, delivering a kick-ass 30-minute talk on veganism, signing autographs and taking a bunch of photos with people.

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What I thought would be a cool and proud situation for a boyfriend–in reality, had the complete opposite effect.

Instead of feeling proud, he realized just how much this diet consumed my entire life and identity.  I had made a career out of my passion for vegan health and fitness.  And as much as every person on earth hopes and dreams of finding and pursuing their own passion, he realized that mine would never be his.  And that was that.

I’ll be honest, guys.  Right now, I kinda hate the fact that I’m such a compassionate person.  I almost wish that I didn’t care so damn much about the cruel and unjust treatment of animals in our society.  Dating sure would be A LOT easier if I could just stop caring about the billions of animals that are unnecessarily killed every year for human consumption.

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Last weekend I delivered a 45 minute presentation at Veg Fest in Ottawa.  I’ll be honest.  It took every ounce of my mental strength to stay on task preparing for it and not lie on the couch, sobbing uncontrollably in the fetal position all week.

I will never regret my decision to be vegan but in all honesty, at times like this, it’s easy to regret being THE vegan who I’ve become.  And I’d be lying if I said that I don’t sometimes fantasize about going back to a regular 9am – 5pm corporate job where no one even knows or cares WTF I eat.  And when I get into these funks, I imagine what my life would be like without this blog and without my vegan coaching biz.

But whether I’m workin’ for the man in an office Monday to Friday or pouring my heart into a blog post at 2:06am on a Sunday night… This, I know for certain:

“Compassion is not a virtue.  It is a commitment.  It’s not something we have or don’t have.  It’s something we choose to practice.” – Brené Brown

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And as lonely and heartbroken as I feel right now, I’m relying on my compassion now more than ever to help me get outta this funk.  So I’m acknowledging my own suffering and I’m showing compassion to both myself and to him.  I’m not passing judgement either because he was being authentic in what he wanted and didn’t want in his life.

I’m definitely not looking forward to “dating” again.  But I’ll remain hopeful that there are jacked dudes out there who genuinely believe that compassion is a necessity and not a luxury.  And even if I never find one, I’ll at least take refuge in knowing that those who fly solo often have the strongest wings (and are a centaur in the Warriors of Compassion Calendar.) 🙂

samantha shorkey

– Sam, Jacked on the Beanstalk

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35 Comments on Is Compassion a Relationship Killer?

  1. Carmi
    June 12, 2017 at 9:34 am (5 months ago)

    If the two of you have a history, and both of you knew your eating preferences why would your comment have such an impact on him? He could have laughed it off, as you could have. Is it the only reason you called it off? Seriously, if you really do think he is a great guy, and everyone else does too wouldn’t a compromise be an option. You could cook all the food for yourself, and include tasty veggies for him. His part would be cooking all the meat dishes if that is what he wants to eat. He can buy an Instant Pot, so you don’t have to smell it for hours cooking in the oven. Honestly, he just might come around given time. He knew you’re vegan when you began seeing one another, and made the effort to go to places that you could eat a full meal, and not only a lettuce leaf topped with a carrot stick. And you had a workout partner!! A workout partner sounds like heaven to me all by itself…

    As you know relationships really do suck at times. You have heard of the venus/mars thingy. If you haven’t read it, maybe think about doing so. It isn’t possible to live in harmony all the time, and we have to learn to pick and choose our battles. Some ‘discussions’ aren’t worth the time or effort, that’s not to say your convictions are meaningless. You can bet he isn’t the only one watching how you live, but that’s to be expected. Not many people these days find their way, and actually live and breath it.

    Reality is, we are all different. The whole world will never be full of vegans. I think we can encourage more people by introducing them to tasty plant based options, peak their curiosity enough without beating our chests, and saying::: #@### you have to stop killing the animals! It doesn’t work.They become defensive, and we get a bad wrap in the process. We have to respect one another, and whatever choices we make are ours, and ours alone.

    My heart goes out to you, Sam.

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    • Sam
      June 12, 2017 at 1:59 pm (5 months ago)

      Thanks Carmi. Apparently there were other issues like my jealousy (because I didn’t like when he would comment on how hot other women were) and living in different provinces didn’t make it any easier. Whatever the case, clearly I wasn’t the girl from him and I have to remain positive that Mr. Right is out there somewhere. Appreciate all of your support as always, Carmi xoxo

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      • Carmi
        June 13, 2017 at 1:21 am (5 months ago)

        This should bring a smile. A quote from Ahsoka Tano of Star Wars fame!!

        ‘This is a new day, a new beginning”

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        • Sam
          June 13, 2017 at 4:08 am (5 months ago)

          Haha damn straight. Love it xo

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      • veronica
        July 24, 2017 at 2:49 pm (4 months ago)

        Wow, hearing you say this really made me feel quite a bit better! I’ve been down on myself over this subject, wish I wouldn’t feel a negative way when my bf comments on other ladies looks. I just can’t help it, and I know i’m a great looking chick but I can’t help but compare myself. He apologizes but still brushes it off. Hearing that an amazing, strong and beautiful lady like yourself can feel this way as well really opened my eyes to tho common trait! I’m so sorry you are feeling down about this breakup, but you are only going up from here! There is a hot, jacked and most likely vegan man just waiting to meet you when the time is right!

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        • Sam
          July 26, 2017 at 12:14 am (4 months ago)

          Haha thanks Veronica! I’m not too worried. And even if I never find him, then that’s okay too. Just means I can get more cats and write more blog posts where I can connect with other cool peeps like you 🙂 And I totally feel you on the BF comments. It’s disrespectful and any partner should be able to recognize that especially if you’ve voiced that it bothers you. I would never comment on other dudes’ “hotness” in front of a guy I cared about because I would never want him to feel any less than satisfactory for me. Why should wanting the same from our men be seen as insecure or needy? Fuck that. Respect is always #1. And that means respecting ourselves enough to not put up with any bull shit. Stay strong, girl and thanks for the kind words and support xo

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  2. Heather
    June 12, 2017 at 12:06 pm (5 months ago)

    Sam,

    I’ve been following you and reading your blogs for a few years. Primarily because we are like-minded when it comes to our love for fitness, food, and for animals.

    Sometimes guys fall into the latter of those. I’ve dated meat-loving, hunters and guys who eat vegan that wouldn’t touch a weight or hit the gym to save their lives. I’ve been judged for my choices endlessly and I’ve been dumped after really great dates – and even long friendship-developed dates, because the guys were intimidated by one or more of my life choices that I believe truly define my character. It’s heartbreaking in the moment, and it does make you question yourself.

    The places in your life where you are true to yourself will ultimately be the places where you find happiness with someone else.

    This guy you dated, this, “friend,” actually sounds like he was more intimidated by your success than by your choices in food or desires for his choices to change. Up until he opened the exit door with a question he expected you to answer the way you did, it sounds like he didn’t have issue with your choices. Yet, there he was with you in a place and moment of success and what should have been and opportunity for him to support and encourage you, looking for an easy exit. That’s not a guy who has an issue with your hope for him to see your compassion for the lives of others, that’s a guy looking for a girl who doesn’t outshine him. And you’re looking pretty shiny these days.

    Congratulations on your successes. Don’t waste your heart on a guy who, however long your friendship, can’t see past his own fears of being overshadowed. When someone leaves you with a question like that, it has more to do with them wanting to blame you for their exit than it does with your actual answer. That was a guy looking for a window to escape the shadows of success more than it was anything to do with your lifestyle choices. If he truly felt strongly enough about the differences in your food choices that your answer merited a break-up, he would never have dated you in the first place.

    Keep doing what you do, and know that there are lots of other people who share your passions who won’t leave you feeling at fault in a moment that should be celebrated – due only to their own insecurities.

    I’ve seen it. I’ve lived it. Don’t you dare question yourself.

    Sending you love!

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    • Sam
      June 12, 2017 at 1:47 pm (5 months ago)

      Heather, I’ve read your comment about 10 times already and have tears in my eyes as I respond. Thank you so much for this heartfelt message. It’s definitely been a tough pill to swallow and one that finds me questioning myself and my life choices a LOT. But seeing comments like yours reminds me why I do what I do and why I share what I share. So thank you. I really needed to read your comment. And I will probably re-read it 100 more times today. xo

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    • Miriam
      June 12, 2017 at 3:28 pm (5 months ago)

      Bingo. You’re dead right.

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      • Sam
        June 12, 2017 at 3:50 pm (5 months ago)

        Thanks girl. Trying to pick myself up off the ground and get back to business as usual. Appreciate you being so understanding and in spite of this shitty personal situation slowing my work down this week, it makes me feel blessed to work with such beautiful, kind people and I’m even more excited to work with you because of it. So thank you 🙂

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    • Lauren
      October 22, 2017 at 9:02 pm (4 weeks ago)

      I am basically in the same boat right now. I hope you’re doing better. You’re amazing!!!!

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      • Sam
        October 23, 2017 at 12:48 am (4 weeks ago)

        Aww you’re too sweet, Lauren! And sorry to hear you’re dealing with a similar situation. It can be super frustrating and discouraging. I actually met a hardcore animal rights activist right after and ironically enough, that wasn’t ideal for the complete opposite reasons!! But it’s all a part of this big, crazy and awesome thing we call life, right? Just gotta stay present and try to create supportive, healthy relationships whether they’re vegan or not. Good luck with it though, girl. And thanks for the kind words 🙂

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  3. Dale
    June 12, 2017 at 6:58 pm (5 months ago)

    Sam, you are a beautiful and compassionate woman, why would you feel jealous of anyone? You inspire thousands of people and you belong to a community of people who love and respect you.

    I won’t comment specifically on your ex, I never have negative or hurtful words or thoughts about people that have touched my heart. Sadly relationships are very difficult, especially with a carnist; it can work but it takes two special individuals and a bit of compromise.

    I know I much prefer being with a vegan. A carnivore may view veganism as an end when in fact it’s a beginning. It’s not merely a personal preference, as you know it is consuming, it is a pathway to kindness. Is this something worth compromising on?

    Never doubt yourself, your choices or the person you have become. I’m sorry you have had a break-up, it sucks I know, but you have done nothing wrong and you don’t need to change one bit. We all deserve someone who will worship us and love us completely. You will find that person, you just have to sift through the hundreds of offers you probably have!

    Life is good and tomorrow is a new day full of possibilities. Take care xxx

    PS: Congrats on all of your successes. Just keep being you 🙂

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    • Sam
      June 13, 2017 at 12:26 am (5 months ago)

      Dale, just like Heather’s comment below, I’ve read yours a few times now. And I thank you for it from the bottom of my little plant-eatin’ heart. It’s funny because I sometimes wonder “do people really give a crap about my personal life?” and I contemplate being so forthright and open about my love life. But it really is therapy for me. And this situation in particular shows SUCH a silver lining in that the response from my beloved vegan community has been overwhelmingly touching. And in spite of many sad tears shed these past couple of weeks, today I actually cry happy tears. And that’s because of people like you. So thank you 🙂

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  4. Dominique
    June 13, 2017 at 3:53 pm (5 months ago)

    I am going through a bad break right now too. Tears come more often than not. I stopped wearing makeup because I cry so much. I am inspired by your courage and your beauty (inside and out). Sending you love and light. Be well, My Friend.

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    • Sam
      June 13, 2017 at 11:10 pm (5 months ago)

      Awww thank you, sweetie <3 And my heart goes out to you too. I will say that support from all you lovely vegans has been soooooooo healing for me!!! And my best advice to you is to write it all down, exactly what you're thinking and feeling. And if you don't have a blog, write a letter to your ex and never actually send it to him. I promise you WILL feel better afterward. And of course, nothing is a better stress reliever than hitting the gym. Take out your pain and tears onto the weights (and get in better shape at the same time.) I allowed myself one day of crying, not leaving my apartment or pyjamas but now I'm staying busy and moving the eff on with my life. I hope you can do the same, girl. And if not, please don't hesitate to reach out. Not sure where in the world you are but I'm only an email away if you ever want to vent. Stay strong, soldier. It DOES get better and you might not be able to wear makeup right now but you CAN go get your nails done or go for a massage. Something for YOU that makes YOU feel BETTER. And I'm typing this as a new red head 🙂

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  5. Hayat
    June 13, 2017 at 7:53 pm (5 months ago)

    Hey Sam,

    I know Ive told you more than once that when I read something from you I see myself.I didnt expect to read exactly this in this blog,but I have to say that its in our nature (you know what I mean) to tuck all of the emotions deep down inside of us and deal with it alone.Most of the time we dont realize that we cant deal with this ” extra weight” and in one point its just blows into pieces.Given from my beginner’s experience on this planet (almost 29 years) I have to say that being a vegan is a lot A LOT to handle. You’ve been almost non stop everyday MENTALLY challenged to keep yourself calm and not give up because EVERYONE ELSE is against you.And by you I dont mean as a human being I mean as a VEGAN.Because its easier to judge as to support and understand someone. I get what you mean by having an easier life without bothering what you have to eat and what your believes are, because YOU as a person too want to have everything else like the rest of them.Its just that they keep pushing you away all the time and you keep pushing back with hope, hoping that next time or this time will be different.Our problem is that we think outside the box,the ‘MISTAKE’ that we make thinking about others,the animals and everything around us…a mistake of being a non narcissistic piece of sh…
    I often ask myself “where the hell am I going to find the guy Im looking for”and by that I dont mean blue-eye smiley face hot guy.Its really like lottery, you dont know what will happen until you try and try and try, again and again..but instead of having the bigger option like everyone else, you will be narrowed to that 1-2% that you are not even sure if it exists. I keep doing compromises like you did with your relationship just because Im sick and tired of being alone and being up there for myself.For once I wanted to be taken care of, because at one point it builds up and you cannot hold it anymore.But even then for that little piece of happiness /to taste it you ignore yourself and what you’ve build up until now up to the point when you ask yourself ‘is that how I really want it to be’.You feel it in your gut, its not right – “A heart that always understands also gets tired”. I dont know who said it but its damn true.You cant keep up hitting your head against the wall. Of course who am I to give you a relationship speech right now, Im sure you are so fucked up now that you dont even care who and what says.We July babies have a really tough time dealing with heart pain. I keep asking myself over and over when I will I have the chance to smile finally to someone that have the same believes like I do..and I keep getting no answer.. is it that f…hard to find,is that too much to ask…for God sake its just food,its breathing beings…why is it so hard to understand? I was too blindfolded for most of my life, but give me a break,its not alien language!
    You know what you did wasnt right because it took your happiness away,but you also know that you cannot just ignore everything else that you’ve preached and worked for!One thing that cheers me up (and I know you do it too) is saving me some inspirational quotes which I read time to time when Im down…I know you dont care and you are hurting right now,but Im gonna post some of them anyway, because I dont care that you are sad either.
    CHIN UP you hear me!

    – Your value does not decrease based on someone’s inability to see your worth
    – Dont light yourself on fire to brighten someone else’s existence
    – Sometimes people around you wont understand your journey.They dont need to,its not for them.
    – To heal a wound you have to stop touching it.
    and last but not least : believe that someday someone is going to hug you so tight that all your broken pieces will stick back together!

    you can handle it,give it some time – you got this!

    tons of hugs!

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    • Sam
      June 13, 2017 at 11:18 pm (5 months ago)

      Awww I love ALL of those quotes!! And as much as I DO love quotes (and you already know that) I NEVER keep love/relationship ones – only motivation/personal development ones as you already know being one of my fave clients. But I truly love all of these especially “don’t light yourself on fire to brighten someone else’s existence.” And truthfully, since the breakup, I learned some other things about him that made me recognize that I’m so much better off without him (vegan or not.) And I honestly feel as though this was a blessing. And yes Hayat, I wish nothing more than for everyone on Earth to view animals in the same way that we do i.e. sentient BEINGS and not THINGS. But alas, we’re just not there yet. But we ARE making progress and we gotta focus on that. And maybe by the time we’re 50, the ratio of vegan men to women will be equal. 😉 Thanks for the love and support as always. And I can’t help but smile when I read your comment because for once, I feel like you’re the “mom.” And I’m okay with that…. this one time. Birthdays are coming up!! We def need to skype and eat vegan cake at the same time xo

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      • Hayat
        June 19, 2017 at 10:47 am (5 months ago)

        We JOTB Team ladies have to support eachother! Im here whenever you need me :))))) and Ill be more than happy to share my cake meal with you via skype :))))))))))) double cheaters ! 😀

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  6. Alina
    June 13, 2017 at 8:03 pm (5 months ago)

    Hi Sam! Trying to find the right words here. Sorry that your relatipnship ended in such a disappointment. I used to have the same ‘thing’ for hot gym guys and dated a fair share of them back in the day, but for some reason, it always, ALWAYS ended in some sort of a clusterf*ck. Don’t want to say that all gym guys are defective, but after a while I started thinking that my disappointments were not just a coincidence. Fast forward to today, I’ve been with my husband for seven years, and I’m now totally at peace with the fact that he hates the gym (he does love cycling though, so there’s the ‘staying active’ aspect that we do have in common). And I’m lucky that he agreed to go vegan a few months after I switched, not because of his compassion for animals but out of his concerns for the environment. My point is, what if the right person doesn’t align with your views and interests 100%but is fairly close in most areas – would you give them a try? Also, I do agree with the above commenters that it sounds like he felt overshadowed with your success rather than deemed your veganism a deal breaker.

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    • Sam
      June 13, 2017 at 11:23 pm (5 months ago)

      Hi Alina! So nice to hear from you and thanks for the advice and words of encouragement. I’ve really been thinking a lot this week about whether I need to limit myself to dating vegan (or at least vegetarian) guys only. And ironically, I’ve also been thinking a lot about whether I need to expand my tastes beyond the typical jacked “meathead” to someone who probably does care more about the environment than the size of his calves. And moving forward, I really am gonna try to be open to dating different types of guys and not focus on physical and sexual attraction so much. Obviously you want the full package but as I’m sure you can agree, when a guy is compassionate, his hotness factor goes WAAAYYYYYY up. So I’m going to really start looking as deeply as possible at one’s inside before getting hot & bothered by his outside. Maybe I’ll get into cycling 😉

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      • Alina
        June 14, 2017 at 4:08 am (5 months ago)

        Way to go, Sam, good luck!

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  7. Mike Downey
    June 14, 2017 at 5:47 am (5 months ago)

    Tis quite the fitting image you used as when I created it originally your character was being freed by a male slave so that you could fly away. I left out the slave yet you can still see your broken shackles in this image. You’ve been freed. You have such a huge world of opportunity and although your hurt now, you won’t be when you get back on track and find something more suitable. You’ll be thankful for his ability to move move on as even though my last gg was vegetarian it still drove me nuts after showing her the horrors of how dairy is made. If people can be ok with that, then it’s not you that’s not cut out for him, it’s the other way around. Maybe he isn’t saying it straight up, but I’d assume he may just want what’s best for you. Often guys play the hard role and aft like they don’t care anymore during a break up, but that’s not always the case. Anyways, I am not inside anyone’s heads, I’m just trying to help keep yours up 😉 I love my Pegataur /Centasus 💖

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    • Sam
      June 19, 2017 at 6:21 pm (5 months ago)

      Such a kind and sweet message. Thank you, Mike!! You are such an amazing person and I’m so glad there are vegan guys out there who have made the connection and put their hearts before their stomachs. Can’t wait to collaborate on all kinds of fun shizz together 🙂

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  8. Vegan Bestie
    June 14, 2017 at 5:12 pm (5 months ago)

    I’m here for you, friend.

    ( I wrote a whole thing then deleted it…. I’ll leave it at that.) ❤️

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    • Sam
      June 19, 2017 at 6:18 pm (5 months ago)

      Thanks pal <3 Let's catch up soon, damn it!!

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  9. Wolf-Theo Holl
    June 14, 2017 at 8:37 pm (5 months ago)

    when it comes to a break up I´m probably not the best to comment *any* decision… however I definitely know how it feels… being an old guy I´d just like to quote some lyrics 😉 (and I still think that Fleetwood Mac has been a GREAT band)

    If you wake up and don’t want to smile
    If it takes just a little while
    Open your eyes and look at the day
    You’ll see things in a different way

    Don’t stop thinking about tomorrow
    Don’t stop, it’ll soon be here
    It’ll be better than before
    Yesterday’s gone, yesterday’s gone

    Why not think about times to come?
    And not about the things that you’ve done
    If your life was bad to you
    Just think what tomorrow will do

    Don’t stop thinking about tomorrow
    Don’t stop, it’ll soon be here
    It’ll be better than before
    Yesterday’s gone, yesterday’s gone

    All I want is to see you smile
    If it takes just a little while
    I know you don’t believe that it’s true
    I never meant any harm to you
    ……………………………………………
    I´ve been reading you´r most recent comments and I it seems to me that you are already *healing*….luv that, please continue on that path, you are beautiful, an amazing woman and I´m sure a lot of people will always be there to support you !

    Keep on spreading the vegan message (I´m sure you will 😉 )

    Luv you,

    Theo (aka Lupo59 on Twitter)

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    • Sam
      June 19, 2017 at 7:00 pm (5 months ago)

      Awww thanks Lupo!! I feel like I’ve known you on twitter for so long, it’s weird to call you anything but “Lupo” now haha. Whatever the case, thanks for the kind words (and 80s flashback.) I’m sure Sarah will enjoy reading it too 🙂 I am actually doing a lot better. In fact, being asked to speak at the March to Close All Slaughterhouses this past weekend in Ottawa (and the Montreal chapter came to march with the animal activist groups here too) really helped to get over this whole situation. We had over 300 vegans and the day could not have gone any better!! We marched all across Ottawa as one great big powerful unit and after the march, half of us went to “Rib Fest” to protest and lay flowers for all of the victims of this stupid “festival.” And throughout it all, I connected with so many other beautiful, like-minded souls. And every single moment of that day reminded me of who I am and what I stand for. And failed love life or not, I’m doing exactly what I’m supposed to be doing on this Earth. 🙂

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      • Kendyra
        June 30, 2017 at 11:52 pm (5 months ago)

        That is so terrific, I suspect your ‘ex’ wouldn’t have come with you. That is his loss not yours.

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  10. Lucy Peixoto
    June 24, 2017 at 1:27 am (5 months ago)

    Don’t you worry Samantha. God has a wonderful man picked especially for you and he’s coming to get you.!😊 This was a test so be True to who you are: Compassionate, caring, and loving animals. And if he’s eating meat and talking about how hot other women are in front of you-well, that’s just disrespectful. And remember what I told you…..Really, Samantha, what would your Cat say! !??? Stick to that and you’ll never go wrong. Luv, your fellow Vegan and crazed Animal Activist, Lucy.

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    • Sam
      June 25, 2017 at 2:26 pm (5 months ago)

      Awwww Lucy!!!! What a beautiful, lovely comment. THANK YOU!! And so funny you mention my cat. I actually had a date with a guy last week and my cat hated him and he hated my cat!! Total deal breaker! I will admit that my cat loved my ex and he adored my cat but classic case of “why love one but eat the other” right? Anyway, thanks for the support and love and for doing your part for the animals. Don’t be a stranger!! xo

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  11. Kendyra
    June 30, 2017 at 11:46 pm (5 months ago)

    Hi Sam, have you seen the ’95’ t-shirt? It has a sentence around the number that says: The number of lives saved each year by a vegetarian’ (it must be even higher for vegans❤️). If I had to choose between saving 95 lives versus one nest eating boyfriend, well let’s just say: We’re both animal lovers. You did the right thing. My hubby was a meat eater when we met but he now is vegan Hallelujah! And he’s taken up Pilates. You just have to stay single and happy or hold out for Mr Right (who is a vegan) it is sooo worth it. What kind of person supports the consumption of innocent animals especially if they have you to educate them to the advantages of kind living. I am SO PROUD of you. Mwah 💋 kendyra

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    • Sam
      July 3, 2017 at 12:15 am (5 months ago)

      Awwww thank you Kendyra!! Means the world to me!! I will soon start a part 2 to this post that you’re sure to love. It’s a juicy one and the ultimate vegan-experience. So standby for that gem! 🙂 And I love that shirt. I heard a vegan saves 900 animals in their average lifetime. Pretty amazing. PS I will respond to your emails eventually, I promise!! Just never enough time in the day!! xo

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  12. Sahy-fi
    July 6, 2017 at 3:50 am (5 months ago)

    I am married to a non-vegan. It is difficult at times to reconcile myself with the fact that we don’t see eye to eye on this issue. Yes, life would be easier with a vegan partner. However, I feel like I have had more impact in spreading the vegan message by being with him, as he has drastically reduced his meat/dairy consumption since we met (he only eats non-vegan outside the house). His family has also started incorporating more plant-based dishes into their weekly meals, which is kind of a big deal because they’re French (will never be able to convince them to give up cheese, unfortunately!). I have hope that he will make the transition one day, which would be a +1 for the vegan population. So I think it is important to be with someone who is at least open to changing their eating habits, though it may take them awhile to do it. Yes, you might have to look outside of bodybuilding circles, where meat and dairy reign supreme. Might I suggest looking for an endurance athlete, instead?? Lol.

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    • Sam
      July 6, 2017 at 3:18 pm (5 months ago)

      Awwww I truly love that so many strangers are offering me such thoughtful advice and sharing their own stories on my posts. So thank you, Sahy!! I also thoroughly enjoyed your “endurance athlete” suggestion. I like that idea. I just need to warm myself to the idea of a less muscular man I guess. 😉

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